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MLBD #7: Your Words Create Your Reality

The words we use are so powerful that they even have the ability to create our reality.

Words we speak cause different biochemicals to be released in our brains, which can impact the way you feel and emotions that you experience. How we feel emotionally will cause us to take action or inaction, which creates real results in our lives, both positive and negative.

This can become a real problem when people experience negative self-talk, both verbally and within their minds.

Instead, when we want to create or manifesting something, we want to create the emotion that that desired outcome will give us. Use your words to do this. Tell yourself before bed that you are going to have a great day tomorrow. You will wake up tomorrow feeling recharged, rested, and ready to take on the day. Use these affirmations to redefine your reality.

You are never not prophesizing over your life. The words you use are constantly being planted in the universe. Remember to use words that are compelling, emotional, and that resonate with you.

If you want to make changes in your life, start to tell a new story. Speak it or write it down—either way, you are paving the path to your new future. Eventually, you will be living in your new story. This technique is the exact method Christina used to change her reality.

Speak using terms of abundance. For example, the word “try” allows us to play small and justifies our ability to not follow through. Hold yourself to a higher standard and remove that safety net.

Check in with yourself throughout the day to verify your self-talk. Are you speaking in terms of abundance and positivity or are you speaking from negativity and scarcity?

You can have everything that you desire in your life. You have the ability to be who you want and accomplish your goals. Simply fine-tune the words you use, take consistent action, and watch your new reality unfold.

TAKE ACTION

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MLBD #6: The Problem Is You Think You Have Time

What if, at the beginning of your life, someone told you that you are dying? Would you continue to live your life in the same manner that you do now? Probably not.

We all have dreams of things that we’d like to do and goals that we’d like to achieve, but many do not take action. Why is this? Simply put, we think we have time. The truth is that life is short and we really do not know how much time we actually have. A perfect reason to take action today!

What is it that your heart is calling you to do? Do you want to start a business? Are you trying to find the love of your life? Whatever it is that you desire, go after your dreams. Don’t put it off until tomorrow. Make a declaration and schedule the time on your calendar to take action.

You are special. You have unique gifts that you want to share with the world. Perhaps you know there is something more out there for you, but you’re not sure what it is. Write down three things that bring you joy and excitement and brainstorm how you can spend every moment living in a happy, wonderful state.

Feed your spirit on a daily basis. Try meditation, journaling, spending time with loved ones, or any other activity that revives your soul.

Life is short and you deserve to be authentically happy. If you are carrying fear, pain, and suffering, the only person you are hurting is yourself. Release these negative states of emotion and begin living the life you desire and deserve!

TAKE ACTION

What is your big vision about life? What feeds your spirit? Leave a comment!

If you’re feeling defeated and you don’t know what steps to take to make a change, let’s talk!  Visit masterlifebydesign.comand sign up for your free 30-minute results session to see how we can help!

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MLBD #5: Master Money- Don’t Let It Master You

Finances are an important pillar of Master Life by Design. Today, we’ll be sharing real world principles that can help anyone improve their financial situation.

First, you need to know why you want to become a master of your money. What will drive you when things get tough?  What will keep you disciplined?  Write out all of these reasons.

Your beliefs are very important when it comes to mastering your money.  We adopt belief systems from a young age, including those related to money. When you’re in significant debt, it’s easy to feel that you’ll never get out of your current situation.  You need to switch your thoughts and adopt a belief that you’re making positive changes in your finances.  Identify what beliefs you’ve had about money in the past, but also capture new empowering thoughts that you will have regarding your finances.

When mastering your money, the first step is eliminating your debt. This will take sacrifices, but remember, it’s not always going to be like this.

Once you start paying off your debt, begin saving a percentage of your income instead of a set dollar amount, so you can adjust in the event of an income increase or decrease.  Live by the “pay yourself first” principle and save money first.  It’s also important to know your monthly expenses so you can determine how much you want in the bank for an emergency.

It’s also important to start developing a mindset of abundance and giving back.  This is a blessing to others and lights us up on the inside.  It can be something small such as a cup of coffee.  These small steps will help to condition you to come from a place of abundance rather than scarcity.

Consider joining forces with an accountability partner, consulting the expertise of a fiduciary, or checking out a few great books such as MONEY Master the Game by Tony Robbins and Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker.

TAKE ACTION

Would you love some guidance around mastering your finances?  Let’s chat!  Visit masterlifebydesign.com and sign up for your free 30-minute results session to see how we can help!

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MLBD #4: SEX: Say “YES” To Your Partner!

When determining what you want in an ideal partner, it’s so important to get clear on what you desire in the sexual/intimate experience.  After all, this intimacy brings a couple closer together.  There is much power in saying “yes” to your partner’s desire for intimacy.

So, why is it so important to say yes to your partner?

First, saying yes to your partner’s desire for sex provides certainty.  Certainty should be the number one need fulfilled in an intimate relationship.  At home is the primary place where certainty should be fulfilled.  If it is given, it will not be sought elsewhere.

Just imagine if you constantly said “no” to your partner’s desire.  Imagine these no’s stacking over time.  This puts your partner in a vulnerable position.  Soon that partner will become conditioned to the idea that they will always hear “no” if they ask, and eventually, they may stop asking.  This can lead to seeking sexual or emotional fulfillment outside of the relationship, whether it be in the form of attention from another person or with pornography.

If you find yourself hesitating to say “yes” to your partner’s desires, check in and see where your focus is.  What you’re focused on is what you’re going to feel.  Instead of focusing on the reasons to say “no,” focus on how much you love your partner and how great the experience will be.  This will help to shift your view.

Saying “yes” to your partner’s desire is just one piece that builds the lasting bond and trust between you as a couple. Each one of you deserves to be in a happy, loving, and passionate relationship.  Know your partner’s love language and consciously speak it every day.  Know and ask your partner what turns them on.  Keep open communication and continue to give to each other.

TAKE ACTION

Are you in a relationship rut?  Need help in finding your ultimate partner?  Go to masterlifebydesign.com and sign up for your free 30-minute results session to see how we can help!

We’re back in San Diego!  We’ll be doing meet ups in the local area, so stay tuned to our Master Life By Design Facebook group for details.

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MLBD #3: The Power Of Your Peer Group

MLBD Episode 3: Peer Group

Are you a product of your environment?  A toxic environment is not a healthy place to live.  Take a quick inventory.  Who do you spend most of your time with?  Who are you communicating with on Facebook or Instagram?  Write down these names. 

Are all of these relationships serving you? Do these people have the same values?  If not, it may be time to make some changes.  The truth of the matter is that you simply cannot afford to spend time with those who doubt your mission or live in an environment that doesn’t serve your goals.  In actuality, you should aim to place yourself in an environment of those who are disciplined and may even be further along or more successful than you.  This will serve as a great source of wisdom, inspiration, and motivation.

When we shift who we choose to spend our time with, it often means that some connections will loosen.  Sometimes you may simply outgrow friends.  Remember that there is nothing wrong with this, as it is simply a part of life.  Some friends may not be growing at the same rate as you.  You’re not leaving your friends; they are choosing not to come with you on this journey.  Sometimes people come into your life for a reason, season, journey, or a lifetime.  Though sad, think about the alternative.  What if staying linked in their network kept you from your destiny?

Remember, who you spend time with is who you become.  Where do you want to go in your life?  Find the people who are already there and discover ways to spend time with them.  Perhaps this is through joining a networking event, attending events, or participating in a mastermind group.  

Take a few moments and Identify a few people that you would like to associate with.  Circle the top two names on your list and write down a date that you’re committed to connecting with them.  This is the first important step in becoming a product of the environment that you want to join.  

TAKE ACTION

Upgrade your peer group and environment!  Join our virtual tribe through the Master Life By Design Facebook group and meet like-minded people.  Put yourself around those who love you, believe in you, and inspire you!

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MLBD #2: The 5 Pillars of Master Life By Design

MLBD Episode 2: The 5 Pillars 

What is Master Life By Design?  After all, success is subjective.  To master your life by design, you must think about the ultimate vision of your life.  What does your ultimate day look like?  Once you find clarity about what you want to achieve, write it down and post it in the Master Life By Design Facebook group.  We want to celebrate you and hold you accountable.  There is power and wisdom in community.  Once you know what you are trying to achieve, you can create a step-by-step action plan to get you there.  It is possible! 

So, how do we create our life by design?  By perfecting the five pillars, you can strive to achieve the ultimate vision of what your life should be.

  1. Health – This is the foundation.  Without good health, we have nothing.  What is the fuel that you are putting in your body?  We’ll be sharing different tools and special guests, presenting a variety of approaches and perspectives.
  2. Emotions – How you feel day to day affects you and those around you.  It is possible for you to live in positive states of emotion every day.  Strive to become an emotionally rich person through applying the tools that we will share.  
  3. Finances – Financial struggles can make you miserable, as you may feel as though you don’t have the means to experience all that life has to offer.  We will provide strategies and expertise to help you save, give back, and create the lifestyle you desire. 
  4. Relationships – This refers to both intimate and platonic relationships.  Thriving relationships in both areas will set you up for success.  If this is what you seek, we’ll provide tips to help you find your King or Queen or grow your network. 
  5. Lifestyle – Ultimately, you must get clear about the life that you want to live. Decide who you want to be and what you want to experience.  We will provide you with strategies to define and obtain your ideal lifestyle.

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MLBD #1: Introduction

MLBD Episode 1: Introduction

Welcome to the Master Life By Design Podcast! We’re Joe and Christina Moffett and we’re so happy you’ve decided to join us.  We know what it’s like to feel like you can’t break free, like you were meant for something more.  If you’re feeling stuck and want a change, you’ve come to the right place.  Through this podcast, we’ll be sharing the tips, tools, and strategies that we’ve used to Master Life By Design.

MEET JOE

After graduating high school, I joined the United States Marine Corps and was transferred to Japan and later San Diego, California.  During my time in the Marines, I travelled the world, experienced amazing cultures, and met many wonderful people.  After returning home from a tour in Iraq, I found myself at a decision point and decided to take my chances outside of the military.  I began as a personal trainer, started my own business, and was introduced to network marketing.  Through network marketing, I met incredible mentors and coauthored a best-selling book entitled Defining Moments of Courage.  I was birthed into the world of personal development and became inspired and excited by the wisdom and messages of influential figures like Tony Robbins.  Today, I’m a full-time coach who works with clients around the world.

MEET CHRISTINA

I always knew I was meant for something greater in my life, but I struggled with bullying and low self-esteem in my younger years.  I always found myself searching for fame, which often led down a dark path.  I started hanging out with the wrong crowd, gave into peer pressure, and my life became destructive.  I was a victim of the negative thoughts in my mind and was constantly trapped in negative states of emotion.  I began doing drugs and eventually hit rock bottom.  I didn’t love myself, was making bad choices, and sought love and fame in all the wrong places.  After a life-changing meeting with a psychic, I changed my path and became obsessed with self-development.  I rebuilt my identity and started attending seminars like Tony Robbins’s Date With Destiny.  I left that event as a totally new person.  I am now someone who is inspired to help people overcome their fears and limiting beliefs.  I see the highest and greatest potential in others and aim to serve as a source of inspiration for others to live the life they’re destined to live.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO MASTER LIFE BY DESIGN?

To Master Life By Design is to align the five MLBD Pillars so you have the ultimate experience in your life.  The five pillars include:

  1. Health
  2. Emotions
  3. Finances
  4. Relationships
  5. Lifestyle

There is something great within you.  You have the ability to unlock this potential.  Have a question you want us to answer on a future podcast?  Send us a message at www.masterlifebydesign.com or reach out on YouTubeFacebook, or Instagram.

If you’re ready to step up and master your life by design, we are also taking on private clients and would welcome the opportunity to work with you.

Stay tuned for the next podcast!

Top Relationship Advice To Realign You With Your Partner!

Is The Relationship Advice You Receive Putting You In The Right Position In Your Relationship?

We give out relationship advice all the time to friends and family. One of the biggest difference in relationships that I have experienced personally and with clients that make them successful is … What POSITION you put your partner in. People have a vertical alignment that they are governed by whether that is consciously or unconsciously. Not sure what a Vertical Alignment is? Simply put, it’s the importance of a specific value chain in your life from top to bottom. For example, some people have the vertical alignment of God, Family, Business.

For each person, they have a different vertical alignment based on what phase of life they are in, how strong their values are and how disciplined they are with them. My relationship advice is to take a moment to inter-reflect and write down what you believe your vertical alignment is for you. After you have done this, take a look at your relationship, is it where you want it to be? If not, look and identify where your partner is in the equation.

Priorities and Love

Sometimes we don’t have our partner in a position within their vertical alignment that allows them to have a loving, passionate fulfilling relationship. For example, married couples that put their spouse number 1 over the kids have a far more successful relationship. Not saying the kids aren’t important because they definitely are, they need to see an example of love within a relationship (I could go on more into the psychology of it all but will leave that for a future video blog).

Another way of stating this is to what priority are you putting first in your life. I believe when you strip back the layers of life, at the core of what life is, is LOVE! What is more important than your relationship with yourself and than your partner. Are you putting your partner first in your life (outside of yourself) or is it work? Facebook? Sports? Etc….if you wonder why you’re in and out of relationships, it’s because of positioning.

Positioning

To have a healthy relationship, positioning your relationship and partner at the top of your vertical alignment can have a MASSIVE shift in your life. Now I get people put a position with God, Universe, Higher Power, Creator first (I have God at the top of mine). However, what comes after that pinnacle of your vertical alignment? If you do not position your partner at the top, this can not just affect your relationship. It could also it could affect your business, career, emotional state/home and so much more.

Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

I promise you, you have your partner in the wrong position of your relationship- it’s failing. Here’s a principle that you can carry with you in your tool belt: put your partner and their needs first and watch how much more you’re fulfilled. Your relationship will flourish.  With that said….you must now be CONSISTENT!

Tools To Use

The best relationship advice you can take is you must first make a decision that your partner’s position is number one! After you made that commitment to yourself, you have to be consistent. Here are a few tools I use to remind myself to put my partner and needs first:

1. Each Morning My Alarm Goes Off: I have an alarm that goes off at 7:15am each morning and I title it “ Remember All The Reasons You Love Christina! <3”

2. Check My Vision Board: I look at my vision board and I have a picture of my wife on there right in the center of it. She’s in the middle to remind me that she’s ALWAYS my bullseye/target to win each day.

3. Pray For Your Partner: Each morning I start my day off with Prayer and I always include my wife into my prayers.

There are infinite numbers of ways to remind yourself to position your partner first. The challenge with this is that most people never set up or create these powerful reminders. They are the catalyst for helping you keep your vertical alignment in check.

Who You Listen To

Just like anything in life, you can do what you want but as a friend, I wanted to share what makes my wife and my relationship flourish with electrifying love. Most people believe that the relationship will just work themselves out. After thousands of coaching sessions on this topic and from personal experience – I can tell you that nothing works itself out unless you do the work. We take relationship advice from everyone but believe no one. What does that mean? We take that relationship advice and see if it fits for us. If it works, we keep it. If not, we release it, that simple. 

Most people do not understand what we mean by work when it comes to positioning your partner first. Some of the “work” that we are talking about is not just the physical action that you take. It is also the internal work (conversations, stories, imagery, etc) that you will take on to make both of your cups overflow.

This can help even those that are going to marriage counseling. I am a huge fan of marriage counseling or marriage coaching also. It’s a place that couples can come to ask relationship questions to receive answers that are outside their scope of knowledge.

Mistakes

The biggest mistake I see are that couples reject going to marriage counseling or coaching. This is because they are afraid others will see them and judge them. A great alternative is online relationship counseling or coaching. Christina and I are here for private relationship coaching if you desire. You can join our group coaching program to have the community to help support you in your transformation. What you do NOT want to do is jump on dating sites while you are in a relationship. That is a big No-no” and shows your lack of commitment to making it work between you and your partner.

With everything I given you today, you are the only one that can make the decision to implement this all. Without action, you get no traction. This is my input and hope you take it and realign with your partner so that you can bathe each other in your love. You get one shot at life and you deserve to have a beautiful loving relationship. So….realign that vertical alignment, take these tools and most of all, have fun. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness, love, and passion to all you love birds <3 

Namaste

~ Joe

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The Power of Vision (In Love)

The Power Of Vision (In Love)…

Over the last few decades I have encountered many relationships and witnessed the brutality and the passion a relationship can have. After years of being in relationships that did not succeed as I hoped, frustrating break ups and even being cheated on, it sent me into an obsessive state to study relationships. As a result, I studied what caused a couple that were in there 60’s or 70’s to act like two teenagers that couldn’t get enough of each other and others that were together for a few months or years, at each others necks!

In my studying I found that according to the American Psychological Association (APA), about 40 to 50 percent of marriages end in a divorce in the United States. This was mind blowing! How does this happen? As I started to dig, I found the one of the core components that most couples rarely talk about or even develop to help them have a successful, passionate relationship. The secret that most couples do not have established is….

A VISION FOR THEIR RELATIONSHIP….

Most people miss this. They have visions for their finances, their careers and their retirement but they miss the one thing that will truly make them RICH. Out of all the relationships that I coach from clients to friends, 99% of them lack a vision for their relationship. Whether your religious or not, the bible states in Proverbs 29:18 that “Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he (KJV).” This piece of literature from thousands of years ago even understood this principle. I believe it applies to love too.

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~Rumi

So Joe…..how do I create my vision for my relationship? Thats a great question…let me give you 3 simple steps to create your vision for your current or future relationship:

Step 1: Get clear what you truly desire in your ideal relationship. Don’t hold back on anything you desire. It does not have to be perfect the first time. Just get something out to get the ball rolling.

Step 2: Cross out anything that does not move and inspire you. If you’re not inspired by this vision then you may want to check what you wrote. Grab what really calls to your spirit at your core. What feels right about it?

Step 3: View it, Speak it, Do it. Review your vision everyday, speak it out loud over and over- review it and be a conscious creator of this vision.

Still having trouble? Let me show you my PERSONAL relationship vision to help you out. The picture below is what hangs on my wall that I review along with other components but I wanted to show you mine to help give you and idea of what yours could look like. Borrow, steal, or model mine but I would encourage you to have one that supports you. 

Relationship Vision

Relationship Vision

 

One of the best places to explore this is at Tony Robbins “Date With Destiny” event that he holds once a year in the U.S.A. His event is power packed and creating a vision for your relationship is one area that you get clarity on (If you ever would like to attend, message me and I will make sure you are taken care of). I highly recommend this event for anyone that is in the personal growth world and looking to grow.

This is the cornerstone of any relationship and it would shock you how many people do not have one. Go ahead and ask your friends, parents, grandparents if they have one. Time does not substitute for a lack of one. You will find this to be true and I do not want you to fall victim to societies habits. Join the ranks of the 1%. When I do relationship coaching we look at this as a starting ground for the success of the relationship. Remember, the relationship needs to be feed and nourished also.

I am going to give you some bonus material because I have a passion for helping people in this area of love. I believe that if you’re fulfilled in your relationship then you “Won The Game Of Life.” Everything else is a bonus. Here is a post my Queen and I created a few weeks ago that I believe you will gain some insight or value from. 

To Watch The Bonus Video- Click Here

I hope this serves you and you are able to take those 3 simple steps and apply them. My action step is for you to create your vision for your relationship and share it below in the comments. If you found this to be helpful please share it, give it a 5 Star rating at the top and go out there and love like you never loved before. If you know that this area of your life could use some expert input and coaching, reach out under the Services tab, under coaching, and I will be in contact with you to help support you in anyway I can because you deserve love and Im in your corner! P.s….I expect to be at your wedding haha ? 

Have a beautiful day and love you!

Make today count,

Peak Performance Coach

~Joe Moffett

“Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible-it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment and offer you  more joy than any material possession could.” ~ Barbara D’Angelis

The Hustle Has No Weekends Off!

The Hustle Has No Weekends Off!

Ever wonder why some people get ahead in life and others struggle paycheck to paycheck?

Most people who come to me for coaching are always looking for the newest and latest strategy. As Tony Robbins book “Money: Mastering The Game” says, life is 80% Psychology and 20% strategy. After working with tens of thousands of people and coaching people all around the world….the number one difference between those that succeed and those that fail is their psychology!

Let me give you an example….
I woke up at 630am this morning and went right to working on my business and myself. I have a belief that I need to make the most with my time and sitting around laying in bed will not help me create the income or lifestyle I desire.

After studying the most successful people I found that they all have things in common. Here are 3 common things that the successful do:

1.) They are early risers – They wake up early and get to work. They don’t lay in bed all day. They know time is money so they refuse to let the bed cuddle them up- they get up!

2.) They feed their mind – They are always looking for new ways to grow and to better themselves and separate themselves from their competition.

3.) They give back – They fill themselves by helping others. This comes in many forms. If you climb to the top you better through the rope back down because real success is based on how many WILLING people you can bring with you.

If you truly desire to Master Life By Design – you have to learn to hustle. You have to learn to burn the candle at both ends of the stick, especially if you are working a full time job supporting your family with a dream to do more or create more.

If you need someone to guide you through the process go ahead and go to my Services page and fill out your information and I will get back to you. So whats holding you back? Lets go!

Make today count!

Peak Performance Coach
~Joe Moffett